Building self-confidence

Over the past few weeks, I have been thinking a lot about how the power of having a positive outlook on life. Although there are many ways to develop a positive outlook, one of the easiest is to start with building self-confidence. Self-confidence can influence so many aspects of our lives; from talking with an attractive student you saw in class, to landing the internship you want for the summer. In so many aspects of our lives belief in one’s self can offer tremendous advantages. On the flip side, when we don’t believe in ourselves it can affect the way we act. If you don’t feel confident, you might not approach that attractive student, or you might not feel comfortable enough to ace that interview.

So, how can you build and maintain confidence? When it comes to confidence it is important to pay attention to how you perceive yourself. Take a few minutes and listen to what you say to yourself about your own confidence. Are you saying positive things? Do you hear a lot of negative things? Do you find that you have an “I can do it” attitude, or do you have an “I am not good at that” attitude? If you think that you are not good at something, then the chances are you will prove yourself right and you will talk yourself right out of performing well.

There are ways that you can combat these conversations. One way is to develop a positive inner monologue that helps keep you on track. When you notice that you are experiencing self-doubt and you find that you are talking to yourself in a less than positive way, try to focus on an accomplishment that you have and think about how that accomplishment relates to the present experience. Another way to build and maintain confidence is to keep track of the things you are good at. Remembering where your strengths are and building on those strengths is a great way to help self confidence. Lastly, try to avoid comparing yourself to others. If you are constantly trying to live up to other people’s standards or comparing yourself to someone else, you don’t allow for your own strengths to shine through.

Keep in mind that everyone experiences lulls in self-confidence, but if you focus on developing a positive inner monologue and building on your strengths, you will be able to get through the tough times with ease.

This information is not intended to diagnose, treat, or prevent any disease or disorder, nor is it intended to replace a consultation with a mental health provider.